Parenting Skills

Our aim here at American Drug Recovery Program, Inc. is to educate parents regarding expectations and appropriate age and stages of growth, development and behavior.  Secondly, we attempt to defuse parent’s emotional reactivity to misbehavior. 

We promote improved communication skills, such as the use of “I” statements and active and reflective listening.

We teach about the importance of balancing unconditional love and conditional approval; about limit setting, consistency, and behavior contracts and about reasonable and logical consequences for violation (s).

In teaching parenting skills, we explain about the use and value of positive versus negative reinforcement (catch them being good) and about the value and usefulness of time-outs.

Modeling appropriate behaviors is a part of teaching parenting skills.

We teach about the difference between discipline and punishment.  To discipline is to teach by showing how to assume responsibility.  Punish, on the other hand, is an effort to control by causing psychological or physical pain.
There are two kinds of punishment, physical and emotional.  In whatever form it takes, pain creates fear.   Punishment always interferes with a person’s need to be loved.  It interferes with the development of self-esteem with the ability to attain self-actualization.  Punishment also interferes with the child’s ability to trust others.

Discipline is preferable to punishment as discipline promotes shared power and team building.  Discipline, among other important objectives, promotes conflict resolution, promotion of self esteem and promotes valuing people.